Luxury lesbian matchmaker Sophia Spallino joins Alli and Melisa to discuss modern lesbian dating, including dating apps, long-distance relationships, age-gap dynamics, catfishing scams, and dating etiquette. The episode also dives into conversations around masc vs. high-fem dating dynamics and ho...

Alli joins us from Mexico City as she celebrates her niece's wedding -- and we talk about how therapy is finally paying off in the form of lessened anxiety -- and why people who say they won't date a "baby gay" are just very insecure.

Melisa and Alli talk how dating looks today compared to 25 years ago before smart phones encouraged near constant contact. We also address how to approach dating multiple people and how to avoid moving too quickly.

Dr. Mallory Hanfling joins the show again to share the results of The Firefly Study -- which analyzed compulsory heterosexuality and how it impacted the experiences of those who came out as gay, lesbian or trans later in life.
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Alli and Melisa talk about what it means to be a "visible" lesbian and how that image has evolved since we came out. And how friendships with couples look different now than when we were married to men.

Singer-songwriter Abby Nissenbaum joins the show to share her story of growing up in a Jewish-Catholic household, being outed as a teenager by a neighborhood mom and what life is like today navigating her music career, full-time job and dating in Nashville.
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Dr. Lorri Sulpizio joins us to talk how modern “therapy speak” can sometimes make people second-guess themselves. What's the difference between true intuition and overthinking? Also, how do we hold space for our partner's anxious feelings and communicate with empathy and boundaries.
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Alli and Melisa explore the emotional ups and downs of relationships, both romantic and platonic that have taught us some lessons along the way. And accepting the fact that not everyone is going to like you or invite you to everything.

TRIGGER WARNING: This episode mentions sexual abuse, assault and suidical ideation.
Kiki Joy joins us to share about life living in Minneapolis-Saint Paul, Minnesota and being on her own since the age of 17. She talks about her journey to coming out later in life and how the pandemic forced her t...