Luxury lesbian matchmaker Sophia Spallino joins Alli and Melisa to discuss modern lesbian dating, including dating apps, long-distance relationships, age-gap dynamics, catfishing scams, and dating etiquette. The episode also dives into conversations around masc vs. high-fem dating dynamics and ho...

Alli joins us from Mexico City as she celebrates her niece's wedding -- and we talk about how therapy is finally paying off in the form of lessened anxiety -- and why people who say they won't date a "baby gay" are just very insecure.

Melisa and Alli talk how dating looks today compared to 25 years ago before smart phones encouraged near constant contact. We also address how to approach dating multiple people and how to avoid moving too quickly.

Dr. Mallory Hanfling joins the show again to share the results of The Firefly Study -- which analyzed compulsory heterosexuality and how it impacted the experiences of those who came out as gay, lesbian or trans later in life.
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Alli and Melisa talk about what it means to be a "visible" lesbian and how that image has evolved since we came out. And how friendships with couples look different now than when we were married to men.

Singer-songwriter Abby Nissenbaum joins the show to share her story of growing up in a Jewish-Catholic household, being outed as a teenager by a neighborhood mom and what life is like today navigating her music career, full-time job and dating in Nashville.
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Dr. Lorri Sulpizio joins us to talk how modern “therapy speak” can sometimes make people second-guess themselves. What's the difference between true intuition and overthinking? Also, how do we hold space for our partner's anxious feelings and communicate with empathy and boundaries.
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Alli and Melisa explore the emotional ups and downs of relationships, both romantic and platonic that have taught us some lessons along the way. And accepting the fact that not everyone is going to like you or invite you to everything.

TRIGGER WARNING: This episode mentions sexual abuse, assault and suidical ideation.
Kiki Joy joins us to share about life living in Minneapolis-Saint Paul, Minnesota and being on her own since the age of 17. She talks about her journey to coming out later in life and how the pandemic forced her t...

Episode 353: The Capacity
Sometimes we take someone's capacity for a relationship really personal when the reality is, it's not that deep. This week Melisa and Alli discuss how much capacity plays a role in emotional bandwidth for a relationship. Sometimes someone's unavailability stems from hav...

Alli shares how the book "When Things Fall Apart" is helping her right now. We also get into how to get comfortable with the discomfort of not knowing the future. (And how sometimes seeing a medium helps a little bit...)

Trigger Warning: Episode mentions rejection of trans kids, a violent murder, and self harm
Liliana Bakhtiar -- the first queer Muslim person to be elected in Georgia and the first non-binary councilmember of a major U.S. city -- joins the show to speak about issues currently facing the residents ...

This week Alli and Melisa dive into the "3+1" theory from Simon Sinek, which proposes that lasting relationships require three core pillars of compatibility plus one crucial external factor. The pillars: Intellectual Compatibility, Emotional Compatibility and Creative/Sexual Compatibility — combi...

Melisa and Alli answer a listener email about navigating attraction to masc women versus femme women after coming out — and what that means for your lesbian identity. Plus the duo tackle a spicy question: is there a power dynamic when it comes to kissing? A candid, funny and deeply relatable conv...

All Lesbians Go to Heaven with your Tello subscription. This week Alli and Melisa are joined by special guest Briana Smith, who shares her extraordinary coming out story. Briana grew up Mormon, got married at 20 years old and had four kids by the time she was 29 — and then met a woman at a weddin...